Sunday, January 9, 2011

Weak Sauce


Why do men feel that the only way to gain power over a woman is to degrade her by calling her a cunt or a bitch or a slut? Is it lack of intelligence? Is it the need to make a cheap shot? Is it because they don't know how else to assert their feelings, thoughts, or emotions? Why does saying words that carry such baggage make guys feel like they've really won? On that note, why does the word cunt carry so much emotional baggage anyway? Why is cunt so much more damaging than calling a guy a dick or an asshole? Is it because women have made it that way? I want to know what went down back in the day when cunt was first used as a verbal right hook. What was the syntax? In what context was cunt used to degrade a female for the first time? How did it come to have so much weight in the line-up of derogatory female terms.No matter how it got there, it did. Now it's used as a heavy weight in the verbal argument boxing ring. Guys know that they can use that word as a KO when they have no other way to beat their opponent. It's used as a copout and it's used as a last resort.


So, is it a lack of intelligence? Is it because the man who's using the word has neurons that are firing at snail speed and all he can come up with is to sling the dirtiest female insult and hope it carries the punch of a justified rebuttal? I don't think so. I think even a very smart man who's at his emotional tipping point has the ability to use cunt as a copout when he really wants to stab you in your gut, because of the historical weight of the word.


Is it the need to make a cheap shot? Definitely. Just as if two guys were in a fist fight: a guy will only nut shot another guy if he wants to a) seem like a bitch (and I say that word with no gender bias) or b) knowingly take a cheap shot but can't help himself because he needs to get his opponent in an position that he knows will send him to the ground.


Is it because they don't know how else to assert their feelings, thoughts, or emotions? Yes. Because for men the process of feeling emotions, then thinking about them, then having to come to the epiphany of verbalizing those thoughts is a process that could take months or even years. For that water to come to a boil requires many years of maturity, very strong mothering growing up, and overhearing episodes of Oprah. Then and only then could a male truly, without error or ignorance, voice his emotions appropriately.


However most males aren't to that point. instead when they feel anger, frustration, sadness, and pain and they try to express those emotions in a heated battle, the attempt is usually a failed one. They choose the easier route of calling the girl a cunt to release all that excess steam in their head. So once again congratulations males on slowing your emotional evolution that much more.

2 comments:

  1. Reading through this i started to think you were on to something but i have to disagree with you on a few things. First off some men do call girls cunts or sluts but i dont feel like its the lack of emotions being processed. I feel that since we live in a society that women have always been under men, men feel that they need to be superior because that is what america has made it (or at least in the eyes of most).
    I feel that men dont want to stoop down to a woman's level or admit to something so they use these words in defense. Rather than the process of emotions. Doesn't James-Lange theory state that you cannot feel emotions because the emotions are the effect of the reaction?!
    I do agree that men undermine women all the time, but not because they cannot process these emotions! just a thought :)

    Trent

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  2. That's ironic... in the middle of studying JLT for my motivation class haha but as you know that theory was debunked by the Cannon-Bard Theory which we still use today. And as you said... "I feel that men dont want to stoop down to a woman's level or admit to something so they use these words in defense." That really exemplifies what I was saying. By " not wanting to stoop down to a woman's level" that's another way of saying not wanting to stoop down to an emotional level, as we know women do lay claim there. And by not wanting to admit those emotions and using the word cunt as a replacement, THAT Trent ol boy is my problem and is weaksauce. I appreciate the rebuttal!

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